Answering the naysayers...Whenever I talk about traveling with babies (which is a lot), for the most part I come across like-minded parents who have concerns but love the idea of travel with their young family. Occasionally however, I'm met with a look of horror, or - at the very least - disbelief. The concept of a family vacation does not appeal to them, often for the same reasons. Because I hear and refute these ‘reasons' now and again, I've decided to do it in print once and for all...
- "They won't remember it..."
I've never fully understood this reason, since your baby won't remember anything before the age of two. But just because they won't remember, doesn't mean you don't cuddle and read to and sing to your baby... Plus, who cares if they won't remember? You'll never forget that time together as a family, and new place, faces and foods are good for everyone - including baby.
- "They'd be bored/they'd rather be with Grandma..."
This may be true with older kids if you haven't given them a say in the itinerary, but for the most part, kids want to be with their parents. I know the time will come soon enough when my daughter won't be able to stand me, so we're saving the romantic getaways for later. Plus, with our busy life, I'm lucky to see my daughter 3hrs a day, and weekends are always filled with chores and errands. I want to be with her when I'm not working - and fully enjoy this quality family time.
- "It's not really a vacation..."
True - it's a different type of holiday. You're up early and have routines to maintain, diapers to change and meals to think about. But the thing is , you have to do all that stuff anyway, you might as well be somewhere nice! Plus, sticking to a routine means you all know what to expect, gives you a basis to plan a few outings, AND, not having household chores means you actually CAN sleep when the baby does.
If you're traveling with kids, you're likely not going to plan a getaway to a war zone. Even if you weren't taking them with you, I'd hope that as a parent you'd choose a safe destination as well. Even the most accomplished worrywart (me) can do a bit of research to figure out hospitals, health insurance, vaccinations, and preventative measures. If you take the same health and safety precautions that you would at home, there is no risk in traveling with infants and toddlers.
- "If they act up, we'll bother people..."
Kids act up. If you're so afraid of annoying someone, how do you ever leave the house? You've spent good money, you've come prepared, and in spite of all your best efforts, if your crying/fussing/whining child bothers someone, there's really nothing you can do. Just as there's nothing you can do if a loud/smelly/drunk/offensive person is bothering you. In the long run, the journey is the shortest bit of the big picture, and fortunately the most quickly forgotten.
So please, if you love the idea of getting away with your young family, don't let the naysayers dissuade you. A new parent is under a lot of pressure to begin with, and something like travel gives you the chance to escape together. And repeated travel at a young age creates a great young traveler. At not-quite-three, our daughter knows getting on a plane means going somewhere fun... but most of all means Mummy and Daddy get to stay with her for a whole week, and I love that she loves that the most.
Corinne McDermott is the founder of Have Baby Will Travel - your online guide to traveling with babies and toddlers. For more information please visit http://www.havebabywilltravel.com/ or send a message to info@havebabywilltravel.com .
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We have travelled with our daughter for what seems like since she was born. Both DH and I love to travel-by car and plane and our DD has already done 3 plane trips with us and 4 long car trips and she is all of 22 months old.
We have truly enjoyed the times spent travelling with her-and she seems to have enjoyed it. We have captured her early trips with photos and scrapbooks and even though she won't remember the them when she is older we know that she will love hearing the stories of her young travels-especially her first trip to Disney at 6 months old!
For me, the key to travelling with a baby or toddler is to be prepared and anticipate what you might need for the trip-the same we Moms do each day when going out of our home-just for an extended time. As long as Mom and Dad are relaxed, so too will your little one be relaxed.
my husband thinks that travelling with the children while they are small is a very bad idea. He's worried about distrubing the other passengers yet i totally disagree and would love to go on a vacation. i was a traveller my whole life and now can't even remembet the last time I was on a plane! I think it's great to start them yound and easier while they a re still nursing and in diapers!
We go away all the time and it is great. I am worried about the plane this time because Travis will have a hard time with it but we will just deal with it because he will have a great time when we get there. Try to talk him into it if you can.
We have travelled and lived in Switzerland with 3 children. I needed to both plan ahead and also be willing to be spontaneous. The two older children always had their own backpack with a change of clothes, toys, books and a snack. We had a wonderful time.
While i haven't taken my son on a plane we did go on a 5 hour drive to visit my mom when Sean was only 2 mo nths old...he slept the whole trip and only woke up to eat!! The next year we took the same trip except in the summer and he was amazing.
I think travelling with kids is awesome. Yes it does take more planning and pitstops BUT think of all the memories in the pictures you will have to share in later years!!
We started to travel with our son when he was 5 weeks old. He is now 4 months old, and has been on a plane 3 times, with one more trip planned for the end of this month. It is amazing seeing his expressions when we travel. It's true, he won't remember the trips, but we will always cherish the time we spent as a family. I take tons of pictures of him when we travel so that when he is older, I can show him and we can talk about what we did on the trips.
I'm glad we started to travel with him so young, perhaps when he is older he will be a great traveler.
My daughter loves going on planes. She slept most of the time when we came back from our last vacation. She woke up, had her feed and walked a bit. Most of the time she was good so we enjoyed the ride :-) We are planning for our Xmas getaway to Orlando and im sure she will love it.
why not travel?! My son was a frequent flyer before the age of one, he's 2½ now and has crossed the Atlantic 10 times already. He was 18 months when we went to New York, by looking at the photos right after we got back he may not remember NYC but he recalls going to Central Park and the Museum of Natural History.
When travelling with a child, the most important thing to pack is the right attitude: it'll be fun and can be done. Any other approach may possibly create all the problems you were hoping not to have.
In my experience, people who think it is hassle to travel with children generally think everything is stressful and a hassle.
It's all in your mind. Free your mind, pack you bags and travel the world.
My husband and I love travelling - TOO much.
We have already taken our daughter on 3 trips and have already booked our Spring vacation.
We love travelling with our daughter. It is an amazing experience and I can't imagine not sharing my love of travel with her.
Great points. I would so love to go away right now with my little ones. We have gone away alot with the little ones and loved it every time.
It seems to me that the younger they start travelling the easier it is when they get a bit older too!